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I'm Tired of Today's "Strong Black Women" – A Tribute to Coretta Scott King [From Main Page]

Recently Coretta Scott King, a real strong black woman, died. Yes, yes - Coretta was strong. She earned the title. While the subject used to be taboo, it is no great secret now that she endured years of marital infidelity. This does not diminish Martin as a historical icon. It does, however, force us to realize that the King's marriage was less than perfect. No matter. There are things greater than Coretta simply "staying."

Coretta Scott King

While the subject used to be taboo, it is no great secret now that she endured years of marital infidelity. This does not diminish Martin as a historical icon. It does, however, force us to realize that the King's marriage was less than perfect. No matter. There are things greater than Coretta simply "staying."

Oh, yes - she was much more than a much put-upon wife. She was really a strong black woman. Close your eyes, picture her. Statuesque, beautiful, intelligent, poised. Full of grace, class, and overflowing with strength. It was this strength and dedication to a cause, not just a man, which led her to lead a march of more than fifty thousand people through the streets of Memphis just four days after her husband was shot dead in the same city. Strong! Later in 1968, Coretta took Martin's place in the Poor People's March to Washington. She didn't miss a beat. Her struggle continued. Strong! The following year, she traveled to Britain and preached at St. Paul's Cathedral - becoming one of the first, if not the first woman to do so. Strong!

Today, more often than not, many black women use the "strong black woman" label as little more than an excuse to be nasty for no reason. Coretta did something. She was gentle, graceful and kind. And you never heard her screaming about being strong, even though she was. Learn from her.

Carrying a Prada bag doesn't make you strong. Sitting outside of or searching your boyfriend's house for proof that he's cheating, or mastering the art of speaking with the most acerbic tongue possible doesn't make you strong. Emasculating your mate or leaving him because he resists emasculation doesn't make you strong. Getting married and having babies doesn't make you strong. Watching Girlfriends and Oprah or zoning out on every piece of fictionalized foolishness written by E. Lynn Harris, Omar Tyree, Terry McMillan, Zane and a host of others doesn't make you strong.

Talking down to waitresses doesn't make you strong. Joining the "Black Women's Group Narcissistic Personality Disorder Club" doesn't make you strong. Ethic of this club? - "Black women are doing everything right and if these dumb, lazy ass black men would just get themselves together - everything would be okay." Oh, yes -demonizing every black man who happens to date a white woman doesn't make you strong either. Sorry.

Now that's not saying black men are doing everything right. God knows were not. I'm just saying that there is an ever so slight, miniscule, infinitesimal possibility that today's black women have some growing to do too.

Coretta Scott King was strong. Harriet Tubman, with her long-nosed pistols and nerves of steel, was strong. Ida B. Wells-Barnett, with her sharp political mind, bottomless well of courage and blistering pen, was strong. Bespectacled, beautiful, unbossed and unbought Shirley Chisholm, with her strategy and commitment, was strong.

Harriet Jacobs was strong. Sojourner Truth was strong. Sheila Jackson Lee is strong. Cynthia McKinney is strong. Maxine Waters is strong. Ruby Dee is strong. Feel me?

So, to all you so-called strong black women - I've got no problem with you claiming the title . . . as long as you earn it. Hell, somebody had to say it. Much love, Coretta.

Remember, until next time - have no fear, stay strong, stand on truth, do justice, and do not leave the people in the hands of fools."

Dr. Ricky L. Jones is Associate Professor and Chair of the Department of Pan-African Studies at the University of Louisville. His LEO column appears in the last issue of each month. The "Message to the People" is a monthly commentary published in the Louisville Eccentric Observer (LEO). LEO is free and available at hundreds of locations throughout Louisville. It can also be read on-line at www.leoweekly.com. All comments on the "Message to the People", good or bad, are welcomed by the author. Comments should be sent to blackvanguard@hotmail.com

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